Five, my eldest started schooling when he was 3 years old. He already know the basic colors, shapes, and the alphabet before he entered school. The teacher was really amazed of him.
From Day Care up to Grade 3, he is always at the class' Top 2 or 3. He is such a competitive pupil. He loves to join to every event they have in school. Especially in Science and Arts. He really is fond of everything about Arts.
I love how dedicated he is in his studies. I am so proud of him. I see myself in him. I was also an achiever during my elementary days. Without the help of anyone. I received awards yearly.
That is why, as a mom. I did everything to help him and guide him. I thought that making him focus with his studies and spending both our time reading his textbooks is the best thing I could do to help him.
But I have noticed, it caused us both so much stress. We review his lessons every day. I make him a test weekly. Things became harder when I gave birth to her little sister. We got a very limited time. It is always a pressure because I need him to finish everything with the time I tell him. We review and do his homeworks while his little sister is asleep and when I am available.
Until one day, I had realized that it is doing harm to both of us. The pressure is not healthy. It is not healthy to my son. Most of the time, we end up fighting. I was very impatient waiting for him to finish or learn right away.
So I decided to change how we review his lessons. We started to make it fun but still he learns. Without pressure. We even make his little sister join. When he's not in the mood to read his books and he wants to watch tv or play, I let him. And I told him, as long as he doesn't get a failing grade, it is okay. It's fine with me. He just have to go to school, enjoy, no pressure.
That is why I did not expect any awards at the end of this school year. But, to our surprise.. He made it to the top. He bagged the Top 1 award of his class. My son still did it. Without the pressure. Without the mad mom during reviews.
I am so proud. I am so happy. I did the right thing. I let my son to enjoy and have fun while learning.
Kids doesn't need to be so serious in their studies. Parents doesn't need to be pressured when it comes their to kid's achievements. Let's make them enjoy every moment of their life as a kid. Let's support them, not pressure them. Let them play and have fun. It will make them more confident. Awards are actually not the one that we should be after to, but the knowledge our kids earn in a healthy way. Learning is not a competition.
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